After stretching in the shower. My L/M Demondick is my go to starter he will open you up and is just long enough to let you know there is a second door to conquer.
You know, I still think of that collection of silicone when I read this. You don't need a perfect lover when you have many to love. (Hug your collection and whisper in their ears[and other orifices] your sweet endearments)