I [F] just wanted to drop you an image of my little guy [M] in his happy place between my thighs. Don't give up hope. Gentle/Mommy Dommes exist and/or may be cultivated. Know what you want and seek it, craft it.
Idea for doms. You know how when your dog does something you tell them you give them a little treat as a reward so you can train them? What if you got something like jerky or something like that to give your sub when they do something good?